J Events: Empowering Through Beauty (ETB) Expo

When my Dad came home with a flyer from the barber shop for the Empowering Through Beauty (ETB) Expo, I was extremely skeptical. The event boasted a few known names including Jen the Pen (of Love and Hip Hop New York) and Jazmine Sullivan (!!), but you don’t hear about this kind of notoriety often in the Greater-Bridgeport area. In the end, my curiosity got the best of me; I wanted to see what it was all about.

What I found out at the event.. Empowering Through Beauty is a nonprofit organization founded by Tanisha Akinloye meant to bring communities, the beauty industry and philanthropy efforts together to fulfill the hopes and dreams of underserved women in southern Connecticut. Tanisha put together the expo, entitled “A Celebration of Beauty” as a way to further her nonprofit’s mission by hosting vendors, motivational speakers, performances and a fashion show.

For what I believe was the nonprofit’s first expo, it was really well done — I only wish that there had been a larger group of young women, as we served as the target for most of messages presented by the speakers. I was presently surprised by every speaker — they all had something poignant and powerful to contribute.

Logan West, Miss Teen USA 2012
Logan West, Miss Teen USA 2012, describes how she overcame years of bullying as a child.
Jen the Pen
Jen the Pen, radio host and former Love & Hip Hop NY star, spoke to”Reality v. Perception” in one of her first appearances since leaving the show.

Jen the Pen was one of the first to speak with the audience; I didn’t recognize her at all, as she rocked a new hair color and shorter cut. Jen dove into her experience as a reality star on season 3 of Love & Hip Hop NY. She expressed her surprise at how cruel and negative the response was from viewers on social media, leading her to one of the most insecure times in her life. Of course, it is hard to be sympathetic knowing her character often brought the criticism on herself (particularly with the post-show interviews all over NY radio), however, the hurt I perceived was heartfelt. I’ve never been excessively critical of celebs, but her comments made me think twice about my cheeky comments on social media.

(For anyone wondering what she’s been up to since leaving the show, she said she has focused on taking care of her son and enjoying some time away from the limelight.)

Jazmine Sullivan
Jazmine Sullivan, Grammy Nominated R&B sensation, introducing her mother and guest speaker Pam Sullivan.
Pam Sullivan
Pam Sullivan, discusses the importance of confidence and promotes her new line of personalized, talking dolls (pictured above) that encourage self-esteem.

From the moment I saw Jazmine Sullivan’s name on the flyer, I knew she was not going to perform, but that didn’t stop me from hoping and praying (and imagining our duet of “In Love with Another Man”). As expected, Jazmine only made a brief appearance to introduce her mother, and co-manager Pam Sullivan. Pam spoke to the role of a “momager,” and described how she has tried to balance the two roles that often conflict; as a mother she always looks to encourage her daughter and instill confidence, and yet as a manager in the industry, the message is always “you are never good enough.”

Dr. Tiana Von Johnson
Dr. Tiana Von Johnson, entrepreneur and real estate guru, getting the crowd energized and reengaged before providing some tips for financial and personal success (fearlessness!).

It was quite encouraging to see Tanisha’s ability to put together such an empowering event for the up-and-coming nonprofit — I left with a million new ideas for the launch of my project later this year!

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ETB CEO and Founder Tanisha Akinloye stopped to chat and take a quick photo with me at the end of the night.

Find a full listing of the guest speakers and vendors here.

J Photos: A Trip to the Martin Luther King Jr. National Historic Park

In October, I took my first trip (that I can remember) to Atlanta to visit a close friend from home. One of our first stops upon my arrival was the Martin Luther King Jr. National Historic Park. I am ashamed to say, I had no idea the magnitude of the site — it spans several blocks and includes MLK Jr.’s childhood home and church, and an interactive visitor center — I was in awe. I encourage everyone to visit this pristine historical site; when I make it back to Atlanta, I plan to spend at least one full day taking in everything there is to learn and experience.

Find more information about the historic site here.

“Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness. This is the judgement. Life’s most persistent and urgent question is what are you going to do for others.”

— Martin Luther King, Jr.

Best of 2013

“You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment. Fools stand on their island of opportunities and look toward another land. There is no other land; there is no other life but this.” 
― Henry David Thoreau

2013 has taught me the value of living in the now; it may be different, uncomfortable and at times very lonely, but I continue to grow and come into my own. It took me awhile to get the list down to 10, but here’s a look back at some of the moments I will cherish!

Happy New Year!

J Music: The Best Christmas Playlist Since 2002… When I Made It

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  1. Who Would Imagine a King – Whitney Houston
  2. The Christmas Song – Nat King Cole & Natalie Cole
  3. Silent Night – Mariah Carey
  4. Let It Snow – Boyz II Men
  5. Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer – Alvin & the Chipmunks
  6. O, Holy Night – Mariah Carey
  7. I’ll Be Home for Christmas – Whitney Houston**
  8. O, Come All Ye Faithful – Luther Vandross
  9. Walking in a Winter Wonderland – Ashanti**
  10. Hark! The Herald Angels Sing/Gloria (In Excelsis Deo)- Mariah Carey 
  11. Silver Bells – The Temptations 
  12. Away in a Manger – Gladys Knight & the Pips 
  13. All I Want for Christmas Is You – Mariah Carey 
  14. Seasons of Love – Rent 

**In reflection, I would probably swap these two out. I like to remember Whitney at her best, and this isn’t it. And including Ashanti amongst these legends was just disrespectful.

If I burned a new CD today, I would add:

  • Mary, Did You Know – CeeLo Green
  • What Christmas Means To Me – Stevie Wonder
  • Santa Clause is Coming to Town – Jackson 5 (amongst a few others)
  • This Christmas – Chris Brown

Happy Holidays everyone!! 

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J Music – Beyoncé: Audio Visual, Audio or Visual, Visual and Audio?

J Music – Beyoncé: Audio Visual, Audio or Visual, Visual and Audio?

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I didn’t originally plan to write a post on Beyoncé’s self-titled album, figuring by now everyone is “Beyonced” out, but a comment I made to a friend earlier today led to a few questions I want to pose to the universe…

As consumers we have grown somewhat accustomed to hearing music before we see the videos, TV specials, documentaries, etc. and the music has to stand on its own.

I mentioned to her that I felt my opinion of the music was biased because I had chosen to watch the stunning visuals first, prior to listening the audio portion alone (a decision I struggled with). Now, it would seem, my thoughts of the music are instantly tied to my opinion and understanding of the visual piece.

That brought me to the question — what is the “right” way to consume an audio visual album? When you go to listen to the music for the first time, should it always be accompanied by the visual?

After watching the video Beyoncé released on her Facebook shortly after the album hit iTunes on Thursday, it would seem she would answer “yes” to the latter.

“I see music,” Beyoncé said in the video. “It’s more than just what I hear. When I’m connected to something, I immediately see a visual or a series of images that are tied to a feeling or an emotion, a memory from my childhood, thoughts about life, my dreams or my fantasies. And they’re all connected to the music.”

The questions I struggle with based on that assumption: should the music be able to stand on its own, and does it? Isn’t a part of music allowing the consumer to paint a picture with your words — is she cheating us out of an experience by providing a packaged picture for us?

After I finished “watching” the album, I felt (and feel) an attachment to what the songs means to her, and her experiences, but I wonder if I will ever be able to make my own connection to the deeply personal and reflective elements showcased on the album.

Thoughts?

J Music: The 20/20 Experience Tour (Hartford, CT)

What you didn’t get with the Legends of the Summer Tour, you get 10x over with the 20/20 Experience Tour. As far as overall production — full-band, choreography, spectacular visual element, set list and design, ebb and flow — only show that almost touches Beyonce’s I Am… Tour (the best show I’ve ever been to two snaps). The show didn’t end until almost 12 a.m. in Hartford (on a weeknight) — the arena was still at capacity, with fans on their feet, until the end.

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